We Are Waiting for a Terrifying Generation of Women.
Time changes, society changes, values change — but do people truly become better?
Today’s world has opened doors of new opportunities for both men and women. Yet, with these opportunities has come a new crisis — the psychological and social transformation of women. Educated and independent modern women are now advancing in their careers, but the fundamental human emotions — love, family, and affection — are slowly disappearing from their lives. This transformation is not merely personal; it signals a deep and alarming social and psychological disruption.
Sociology teaches that every social institution — family, religion, education — maintains the balance of civilization. The role of women is one of the pillars of that balance. But today, when nearly 75% of women aged 27 to 30 remain unmarried, the traditional structure of society is trembling. Modern women, in their pursuit of professional success, have placed marriage and family as secondary priorities. As a result, birth rates are declining while loneliness, mental stress, and family fragmentation are increasing. In the race for success, women are beginning to see their partners as competitors. Marriage is turning into an invisible battleground of negotiation, where love is replaced by ego and logical disputes. Sociologist Émile Durkheim once said, “When individuals become detached from society, suicide and mental instability increase.” This detachment among modern women might soon become the main cause of future family unrest and psychological decay.
From a psychological perspective, a person remains mentally healthy when there is balance between emotion and behavior. But in many modern women, an unusual inner conflict has emerged. In their quest for success, they are suppressing their natural femininity — tenderness, compassion, and maternal instinct. Years of competing with men have developed a masculine mindset in many — assertiveness, dominance, and logic-driven decision-making. As a result, when they enter married life, that gentle, nurturing femininity is replaced by intellectual combat. Psychologists call this the “Role Reversal Syndrome” — when individuals start behaving opposite to their natural roles. Consequently, relationships turn from love into logical battles; emotional connection is replaced by transactional calculation. Gradually, women lose their emotional warmth, and men lose their sense of security in authority. Both become rivals, locked in a struggle not for love but for dominance.
In Islam and other faiths, the dignity of women is held in the highest regard. But that dignity lies in her femininity — her tenderness, devotion, compassion, and ability to surrender her ego in love. Allah says in the Qur’an:
“They (women) are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them.” — Surah Al-Baqarah: 187
This verse defines the relationship between men and women as complementary, not competitive. But when modern women strive not to complement men but to rival them, this delicate balance collapses. From a religious viewpoint, this is not only a social crisis but also a spiritual one. When a woman denies her natural role, she defies the fitrah (innate disposition) ordained by Allah. The consequences are visible — marital discord, emotional detachment, and moral decline in society.
We are moving toward an era where women are no longer women — they are becoming symbols of competition and warriors of logic. There is outward beauty, but inner loneliness; there is freedom, but no love.
A society survives only when men and women see each other as complements, not adversaries. Therefore, it is time to reflect — Does modernity truly mean the death of femininity? Can freedom become the enemy of love? If the answer is no, then we must return to the path of balance — where women are once again radiant in tenderness, rich in affection, and infinite in love.
